The father factor is the conscious understanding, awareness, and appreciation of the critical influence that your father had, still has, or could have in your career development and future potential. Noting that the father-son or father-daughter relationship is one of the least understood relationships in adult life, Dr. Poulter helps you become acutely aware of the immeasurable impact (negative or positive) that your father has on your ability to relate to other people. From this recognition you will also learn to move past the career roadblocks that frequently stem from the lingering effects of your father’s influence.
Defining five main styles of fathering, Dr. Poulter devotes a chapter each to:
The Superachiever Father The Time Bomb Father The Passive Father The Absent Father (whether physically or emotionally) The Compassionate / Mentor Father.
By becoming aware of how your father related to you, particularly in a destructive relationship, you’ll understand how your career relationships in many ways mirror your degree of comfort with your father’s emotional legacy. In this way, career roadblocks—often based on interactions with people on the job—will be more easily transformed into career building blocks that will lead to advancement and success.
“Whether your career is skyrocketing or stagnating, it may be less your doing than you realize. Clinical psychologist Poulter makes the case that even for people many decades past adolescence, their paternal relationship still shapes how they deal with bosses, clients and colleagues—either creating confidence or fostering frustration. Poulter’s self-diagnostic questionnaires let readers locate their own dads’ parenting style on a scale ranging from ‘Compassionate/Mentor’ to ‘Time Bomb,’ while case studies show how to overcome the counterproductive patterns these legacies can leave. Hardheaded types may scoff, but it’s still a thought-provoking exercise for even the most self-made man—or woman.” Newsweek
“A marvelous handbook which should be mandatory reading for all…. could transfrom a dysfunctional society into a smart, confident, thoughtful people who could actually work and live in harmony with respect and consideration for others. Kudos to Dr. Poulter for his insightful work.” Gordon Binder Founder/CEO, Amgen Corporation