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You’re the Only One I Can Tell

You're the Only One I Can Tell by Deborah Tannen
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May 02, 2017 | 304 Pages
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“Men will enjoy and profit from this book as much as women will. . . . The moral of these stories [is that] the need for friendship is forever, no matter what forms it takes. Friends come and go, but those who allow us to be unself-consciously ourselves? Hamlet understood. We grapple them to our souls with hoops of steel.”The Wall Street Journal

“A book about friendship that is also interested in the miscommunication that can so complicate it . . . The language, in this book about language, is saturated with concepts that apply equally well to romance in its more traditional forms. The language, too, celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity. It is promoting friendship from a supporting character into a starring role. . . . A few years ago, the writer Emily Rapp argued that ‘friendships between women are often the deepest and most profound love stories, but they are often discussed as if they are ancillary, “bonus” relationships to the truly important ones.’ They are still, too often, discussed in that way. But not always. Not anymore. And here, through [Deborah] Tannen’s consideration of the communication that informs those relationships, is further evidence of that. The loves that the linguist explores in her romantically named book are not merely ones that comfort and sustain women until, one day, the real thing comes along. They are the real thing.”The Atlantic

“At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends.”The Washington Post

“With knowledge and wisdom, the author helps readers navigate the subtle workings of language in interactions among women. . . . Tannen sets out to help women make friendships stronger, accomplishing this in a highly accessible manner with both scientific research and a warm heart. . . . Firmly recommended for students of women’s studies and for every woman committed to the gift of enduring friendships.”Library Journal

“Tannen addresses women’s tendency to seek and make bonds, the way secrets and talk of personal troubles can act as currency in this process, the subtle balance between connection and competition between female friends, and much more. . . . [Her] extensive research and writing, full of thought-provoking questions along with facts, are sure to hook readers enticed by her rich topic.”Booklist

Praise for Deborah Tannen


You’re Wearing THAT?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation
 
“Tannen doesn’t just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations.”San Francisco Chronicle
 
“Tannen has a gifted ear for the meaning behind the words. She helps us hear what we are really saying.”The Baltimore Sun
 
“The effect of [Tannen’s] anecdotes and analysis is to reassure her readers that they are not alone.”The Wall Street Journal
 
“[This] book might help all of us open our eyes.”Chicago Sun-Times
 
 You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation
 
“Utterly fascinating . . . a classic in the field.”San Francisco Chronicle
 
“Refreshing and readable . . . vivid examples and lively prose.”The New York Times Book Review
 
“Tannen has a marvelous ear for the way real people express themselves, and a scientist’s command of the inner structures of speech and human relationships.”Los Angeles Times

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