Never Enough

“This deeply reported book is a wake up call for all of us. Skyrocketing expectations and the unrelenting grind to achieve are doing immeasurable damage to an entire generation — but as Jennifer Wallace persuasively argues, it doesn’t have to be this way.” –Katie Couric

“Recently a sixteen-year old high school student asked me, “Is achievement the same as success?” I wish I could have handed her this book. Because if achievement is all you’re chasing, it will never be enough—but if you matter to your friends, family, and community, you’ll always feel like a success. Jennifer Breheny Wallace offers a much-needed perspective on why mattering matters most.” –Angela Duckworth, New York Times bestselling author of Grit
 
“In Never Enough Jennifer Wallace takes up one of the toughest questions in all of parenting – How do we give kids every opportunity without asking too much of them? – and delivers clear, compassionate, actionable answers. Never Enough is more than a wise and practical parenting book – it’s a pathbreaking introduction to one of the most powerful ways to protect our children’s mental health: mattering.” –Lisa Damour, New York Times bestselling author of Untangled and Under Pressure
 
“Written with a reporter’s eye, a parent’s heart, and insights gleaned from leading experts in psychology and neuroscience, as well as heart-breaking and heart-warming wisdom from the parenting trenches, Never Enough is the book for our times. Journalist Jennifer Wallace offers a fresh and refreshing framework (with loads of practical advice) to help parents raise children in ways where healthy, happy and successful aren’t tradeoffs. Buy this book: Help your kids get what really matters.” –Ned Johnson, bestselling co-author of The Self-Driven Child

“This book will be eye opening – and, honestly, maybe scary – for a lot of parents. It is also importantly full of solutions.  A necessary read.” –Emily Oster, New York Times bestselling author of Cribsheet
 
“Something is deeply wrong when, in a wealthy society, a third of high school students report persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness. An incisive and eye-opening book every parent should read.” –Scott Galloway, New York Times bestselling author of The Algebra of Happiness

“Never Enough helps parents of all ages make sense of the increasingly competitive landscape of today’s childhood. Wallace offers practical, evidence-based solutions for protecting our children from harmful messages, and guides us in how to preserve what we really value. What Wallace proposes here is nothing short of a revolution — a workable one — in how we handle achievement pressure in our homes, our schools and our communities — that is to lead with mattering.” –Tina Payne Bryson, LCSW, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child & No-Drama Discipline
 
“I love this book! Thoughtfully, expertly and, without judgment, Wallace guides readers through the stressful terrain of our achievement culture and offers a more emotionally intelligent route forward.  Like a wise, trusted friend who offers the best advice, you will find yourself turning to this book time and again to better understand the world children are growing up in and how each of us can make it better. Never Enough is a book for parents, schools and communities, but it’s more than that: it’s a primer for living a rich, meaningful life. What an achievement.” –Robin Stern, Ph.D, Co-founder and Associate Director for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence
 
“You know what matters? THIS POWERFUL BOOK. With impressive research, compassion, and clarity, Jennifer Wallace shows us how our current equation of raising kids to take our love and return it as achievement is a recipe for sorrow on both sides and shows us to readjust that equation, so that joy and growth can begin.” –Lenore Skenazy, founder of the Free-Range Kids movement

“A smart take on how parents can help their children thrive without putting undue pressure on them…Wallace’s sharp analysis illuminates the social and evolutionary pressures that drive achievement culture, and her advice is well observed. This more than makes the grade.” —Publishers Weekly

“A timely exploration of adolescent achievement culture…One of the most appealing and encouraging aspects of Never Enough is the author’s warm-hearted enthusiasm for rewriting pernicious norms.” —The Wall Street Journal

“Children today need to see a purpose in their lives beyond their achievements and need to feel they are important to others…Perhaps the thoughtful proposals for action in Never Enough will enable families to take meaningful steps toward that end.” —New York Journal of Books

“If you’ve long suspected there’s something a bit toxic about our culture of success and striving, this is the book for you. A fascinating look at affluent communities and what the constant pressure to succeed and achieve does to kids… Should be a must-read for every parent that’s ever allowed a focus on grades and college admissions to overshadow their emotional connection with their child.” —The New York Post 

“Never Enough would clearly be the book I’d put forward for 2023… The pressure we place on our kids relative to achievement, from academics to sports, is certainly contributing to what’s referred to in universities as “an epidemic of anguish.” We all need to reflect on how we embrace this profound responsibility of allowing our children to live lives of meaning and purpose.” —Robert Chapman, CEO of Barry-Wehmiller