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Us by Terrence Real
Mar 22, 2022 | ISBN 9780593233672

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“When I need advice, I call Terry Real. His decades of clinical experience, research, and wisdom are invaluable to my patients, colleagues, and friends. Us brings his advice to life. It is the book that we all need to read to create more thriving and intimate connections.”—Esther Perel, New York Times bestselling author and podcast host of Where Should We Begin

“Terry Real is a wise, honest, and charming guide. This book is a roadmap for all of us who seek true intimacy. Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”—Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop

“Terrence Real’s work is nothing short of miraculous. In his latest book, he delves with precision and wisdom into the dynamics of modern relationships—to yourself, your partner, and society. He offers practical tools to create and sustain healthy self-esteem and true closeness with others. His work has quite simply changed my life. Read this book. It could well change yours.”—Bradley Cooper

“This is really quite a stunning book. With page-turning flair and brilliant insights, Terry Real exposes the hyper-individualism that ruins relationships—and shows us many effective ways to move from ‘me’ to ‘we. ’ A masterpiece from a master psychotherapist.”—Rick Hanson, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness

“Love has the power to hurt us but it also has the power to heal us, and Terry Real shows us how in this revolutionary guide to happy, thriving couplehood. Chock full of wisdom, research, and innovative teachings from his decades of clinical work developing Relational Life Therapy, Us is the book every human should read in order to truly understand not just their partners, but themselves.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

“Who are we, really? Terry Real offers a way to realize that we are both an internal Me and a relational We.  This is a wonderful, wise, and witty book, consistent with cutting edge science and filled with soul and practical advice that can inspire us to discover who we can become together.”—Daniel J. Siegel, MD, New York Times bestselling author, Aware, Mind, Brainstorm, and IntraConnected, and executive director of Mindsight Institute

“In his previous books, Terry Real awakened us to the fact that most men are not relational. In Us, he not only elaborates on that thesis but, with the writing of a good novelist, brings his approach to transforming men and couples to life. Share this book with your partner and then talk about what it brings up. It may be one of the most painful but also important conversations of your life.”—Richard Schwartz, PhD, developer of the Internal Family Systems model of psychotherapy

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