Gender Rituals

“Gender Rituals is a revelation—a radical and wild benediction of a book. I gasped, wept, laughed, and nodded along the entire time I was reading. It answered so many unasked questions and met so many unmet longings I’ve carried for ritual, ceremony, prayer, and belonging across the many spirals of my own gender identity. It is profoundly affirming, supportive, and life-giving—just like the human who brought it into being.”
—Lindsay Mack, author and founder of Tarot for the Wild Soul

“Gender Rituals takes care of one of the most pertinent questions of being trans today: how to make more time, in the form of habits, patience, and history, for one another. Go read this book. It is both hands-on and gentle. In it, Dr. Lawliet teaches you how to be available for all kinds of things: opening and closing a container, grounding yourself where you are at, waiting for trust, and being a friend. Ritual-making is a very important skill for anyone who is trying to make loving community today and Gender Rituals is a great teacher for you if you are trying to bring more people together.”
—Alice Sparkly Kat, author of Postcolonial Astrology

“Eli is as heart-centered as he is brilliant. In Gender Rituals, a book as comprehensive and grounded as it is innovative, he generously makes his expertise, honed over many years and hundreds of clients, available to anyone needing support.”
—Sarah Faith Gottesdiener, author of The Moon Book

“Eli Lawliet has created a beautiful book in Gender Rituals. As a lifelong magician and witch-thing who came to fully accept their non-binary nature late in life, I hadn’t previously applied much ritual to this awareness. This book changed that, and I am very grateful for it. Gender Rituals will be especially helpful to various trans folks, but the body connection rituals, protection work, and ritual skills taught will benefit almost everyone. I found the practices uplifting, healing, and powerful. The naming rituals are particularly potent for those using a new, chosen name for any reason, as are those for releasing old narratives around identity that no longer serve us. There’s a lot here for anyone, regardless of gender. Highly recommended!”
—Aidan Wachter, author of Six Ways, Weaving Fate, and Changeling

“Gender Rituals is not only a vital and excellent guide for anyone who wants to bring intention and spirit to their gender journey, but also a powerful blessing for our collective liberation. If you’re interested in deepening your relationship to yourself, your gender, and our genderblessed ancestors, you’ll find an incomparable treasure trove of information and wise counsel in Eli Lawliet’s inspired words. As a therapist and educator, I’m so grateful this timely resource has been brought into the world so skillfully and beautifully!”
—Alex Iantaffi, PhD, SEP, CST, LMFT, award-winning author of Gender Trauma and host of the Gender Stories podcast

“Gender Rituals is a beautiful love letter to trans and queer community, but it’s so much more than that, too. The rituals crafted herein will alter your life for the better every single time you perform one—and if you let them, they’ll alter you in the best way possible too. Eli’s work has meant so many things to so many people over the years, and here it is both condensed down to an easy access point for wherever you are in your journey and yet still as expansive as the cosmos that we live under.”
—Cassandra Snow, author of Queering the Tarot, Queering Your Craft, coauthor of Lessons From the Empress, and editor of Tarot In Other Words

“As a person who is more than a decade into my transition and who doesn’t identify as particularly spiritual, I was surprised by how instantly I felt seen by this book. Eli has created a beautiful guide to embracing rituals and meets the reader right where they are. Like our transitions, the navigation of this book can be catered to your own needs. I was struck by the realization that rituals are already present in my life, and gifted a more intentional framework through which to recognize and embrace them. As someone who is in a constant state of self-reflection, I love when I am offered the opportunity to think about gender and myself in new ways. Gender Rituals gave me that and so much more.”
—Maybe Burke, artist, educator, and coauthor of I Heart Orgasms

“In a landscape where many of us daily navigate so many messages counter to our value and magic, Eli Lawliet’s Gender Rituals is a must read for anyone desiring to tune into the fullness of who we really are. Offering both historical context and specific how-to guide to ritual, this book is true spiritual medicine and is the culmination of a lineage of collective knowledge.”
—Tourmaline, artist, filmmaker, activist, and author of Marsha: The Joy and Defiance of Marsha P. Johnson

“There is nothing else out there like Gender Rituals. Each page illuminates the amount of thought, intention, research, and care that Lawliet has placed in this accessible modern-day masterpiece. I want everyone to read this book—regardless of their gender. In a world where we are constantly told who to be, Gender Rituals invites readers to ritualize their relationship with self, deepening their embodied presence in increasingly uncertain times. We are in immediate need of greater empathy across the planet. Readers can support the journey to a more ideal future for all of us, simply by starting with empathy for themselves. A better world is possible, and it’s clear that Lawliet believes it.”
—Maria Minnis, author of Tarot for the Hard Work

“In Gender Rituals, Eli Lawliet has composed an intelligently accessible and nourishing ritual primer. While prioritizing the needs of transfolk, this is a text that will support anyone—truly!—who is interested in well-considered ritual toward more honest and more loving human-beingness. Eli deftly provisions ritual guidance and encouragement without ever devolving into dogma, making room for generative exploration within well-considered guardrails. Gender Rituals is destined to become a well-loved anchor and compass, and a necessary addition to any gender-expansive magical library.”
—Diana Rose, animist astrologer and coauthor of The Rosebud Tarot