1. Ginny possesses an extraordinary memory. In fact, she suggests that, through memory, "I become again the person I was then" (page 10) and thus captures a "true vision of the past" (page 11). What is a "true vision of the past"? Is it Ginny’s twelve-year-old vision? Is it her adult vision? Does Ginny’s effort to remember the past cause her to think about it differently?
2. Berg dedicates What We Keep to "women who risk telling the hard truths." What do you think of Martha Hamilton, the passenger on Ginny’s flight who asks Ginny some very hard questions and makes a few tough statements? Does Martha push Ginny closer to "telling the hard truths"?
3. Martha notes that people like "differentness" (page 26) in everything except their mothers. What does Martha mean? Do you agree?
4. Throughout the novel Ginny suggests that she knows her mother intimately. In fact, Ginny’s early fantasy about discovering her mother’s "link with royalty" (page 17) suggests that Ginny knows her mother better than Marion knows herself. Why is this knowledge so important to Ginny?
5. When Sharla dreams that Marion has a third eye, Ginny expects that Marion will comfort Sharla: "Never mind the dream; no matter what it was, she would take it away" (page 105). Why is this dream so startling? Is Marion able to comfort her daughter? Why or why not?
6. Knowing, in retrospect, that neither she nor Sharla knew Marion as well as they thought, Ginny feels that her mother should have attempted to communicate with them that summer: "To say something about what she must have been thinking" (page 85). However, the narrative is full of moments in which Marion tries to tell her daughters about herself only to be interrupted or ignored. Stories of past boyfriends (page 66) and hints of Marion’s own desires (page 89) are constantly squelched by Ginny and Sharla’s demands. Why didn’t the daughters listen? Why couldn’t Marion communicate with her daughters successfully?
7. After her first long absence, Marion tries to tell her daughters about her experience. From the moment of its "odd beginning" (page 209), it’s a story Ginny doesn’t like. Marion isn’t, Ginny suggests, a very good storyteller: "She would make up stories that were not very good, as this one was not" (page 211). Finally, Ginny interrupts her mother’s story for another: "’I have so much history,’ I said. ‘My teacher, Mr. Stoltz, he’s nuts. He thinks all we have in our lives is history’" (page 214). Why is the word "history" emphasized in this way? What does Marion’s story have to do with Ginny’s "history"? Why does Ginny think her mother is a bad storyteller? What do you think of Marion’s storytelling?
8. What We Keep is full of descriptions of houses. Ginny and Sharla sneak through Mrs. O’Donnell’s dusty, empty rooms, and rifle through Jasmine’s drawers. Both daughters are aware of Marion’s "house folder" (page 87), and offer opinions about her furniture rearrangements (page 88), her Clear Falls apartment (page 225), and her California home (page 259). What is the significance of these spaces?
9. Marion appears to be the typical 1950s housekeeper–at ease in an apron, involved in the weekly neighborhood coffee klatch, a willing Tupperware party hostess. However, she seems to transform the ordinary meaning of even these events. For instance, why does Marion host a Tupperware party on her birthday? Why are her daughters so startled by this decision? What significance does her action have in their minds? In her own mind? In yours?
10. In what ways is Jasmine different from Marion? In what ways is she similar? How do you feel towards Jasmine initially? How do you feel about her at the conclusion of the novel? How responsible do you hold Jasmine for Marion’s decisions?
11. Marion gives her daughters paintings for the first Christmas they spend apart. Ginny receives a painting of mother and child. Sharla receives a painting of a bird. What stories do these paintings tell? How are they related?
12. Sharla says that her painting "doesn’t make any sense" (page 245), but the image of the bird certainly has meaning for Marion. Ginny realizes during her own flight to meet her mother that Marion freed the family parakeet, Lucky, during that summer (page 141). Ginny also remembers the moment in which she and Wayne witnessed Marion "flapping her arms like wings, and walking about in circles" (page 153), as well as the afternoon during which her Parents constructed collages with wings and airplanes. What meaning did these images hold for Marion?
13. Our earliest introduction to Ginny’s father comes through her memories of him. How do you feel about Steven? Does Marion’s story alter your feelings about him? Consider Steven’s defense of Marion’s absence: "I believe she thinks she has reasons" (page 241). Consider his silence when confronted with Sharla’s conviction of her mother’s lesbianism: "’What did he say?’ I asked, and Sharla said, ‘Nothing. He must have known’" (page 246). Do you think that his statement and his silence are defensible or not? Do you think he’s a good father?
14. Wayne is the only other significant man in Ginny’s life that summer. While Ginny feels a constant affection for her father, her feelings toward Wayne are rather ambivalent. She doesn’t want her relationship with Wayne reduced to a "that-summer-at-the-lake story," but suggests herself that she was acting out of a "pied-piper delirium" (page 165). Why does she describe her relationship with Wayne so ambivalently? Why is she relieved when he leaves so suddenly?
15. In what ways does Ginny’s relationship with Wayne parallel her mother’s relationship with Jasmine? Does her own relationship with Wayne help Ginny understand her mother?
16. Wayne tells Ginny that "people want to be fooled" (page 157). What does he mean? Do you think he’s right?
17. The climax of the novel–the meeting of Ginny and her mother–is, in fact, not written. The women come face to face and, suddenly, the text stops. Ginny can’t speak. Marion begins "saying syllables that are not words" (page 254). Why is this moment in the novel not written?
18. Marion confesses misgivings about her mothering while sitting on Ginny’s bed: "I think I’ve raised you so wrong…. I did something wrong. I did everything wrong, and I’m sorry" (page 187). Do you think Marion’s mothering was "wrong"? If so, was her choice to leave "right"?
19. Ginny is clearly aware of the impact that Marion’s actions have had upon her own mothering. Has Ginny learned from Marion’s errors? Do you consider Ginny to be a good mother?
20. Ginny herself asks the novel’s most pressing questions: "I am wondering what it is that we ask of our mothers: what do they owe us? What is it that we owe them?" (page 270) How does she answer these questions? How do you answer them?
21. At the beginning of the novel Ginny acknowledges her love of science: "I would stare at formulas and admire them for their spare beauty without being able to grasp their meaning. The fact that they cleanly explained some higher law to someone else was enough for me. It comforted me" (page 14). At the end of the novel, Marion makes a similar confession: "I would read something like the first law of thermodynamics, and just find it enormously comforting. I still do" (page 261). What is it about science that comforts Ginny? Marion?
22. Why is the novel titled What We Keep? What is it that Ginny "keeps" from her experience?