Preface ….. 11Chapter 1: Saplings in the Storm ….. 17Chapter 2: Theoretical Issues – For Your Own Good ….. 29Chapter 3: Developmental Issues – “I’m Not Waving, I’m Drowning” ….. 45Chapter 4: Families – The Root Systems ….. 74Chapter 5: Mothers ….. 101Chapter 6: Fathers ….. 115Chapter 7: Divorce ….. 131Chapter 8: Within the Hurricane – Depression ….. 146Chapter 9: Worshiping the Gods of Thinness ….. 166Chapter 10: Drugs and Alcohol – If Ophelia Were Alive Today ….. 186Chapter 11: Sex and Violence ….. 203Chapter 12: Then and Now ….. 232Chapter 13: What I’ve Learned from Listening ….. 248Chapter 14: Let a Thousand Flowers Bloom ….. 260Chapter 15: A Fence at the Top of the Hill ….. 282Recommended Reading ….. 295Index ….. 297