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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

By Mira Kirshenbaum

By Mira Kirshenbaum

By Mira Kirshenbaum

By Mira Kirshenbaum

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Category: Psychology

Category: Psychology

Paperback $17.00

Jul 01, 1997 | ISBN 9780452275355

Ebook $12.99

Jul 01, 1997 | ISBN 9781101128367

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    About Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

    There are many books that promise to help you fix a bad relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should even try—or if you need to go.

    Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:

    • What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable?
    • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
    • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
    • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?

    Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

    About Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

    There are many books that promise to help you fix a bad relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should even try—or if you need to go.

    Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:

    • What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable?
    • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
    • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
    • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?

    Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

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    About Mira Kirshenbaum

    Mira Kirshenbaum is the author of eleven books—including the influential Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay; Parent-Teen Breakthrough; Everything Happens for a Reason; and The Weekend Marriage— that have been translated into over twenty languages, and she is… More about Mira Kirshenbaum

    About Mira Kirshenbaum

    Mira Kirshenbaum is the author of eleven books—including the influential Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay; Parent-Teen Breakthrough; Everything Happens for a Reason; and The Weekend Marriage— that have been translated into over twenty languages, and she is… More about Mira Kirshenbaum

    Product Details

    Category: Psychology

    Paperback | $17.00
    Published by Plume
    Jul 01, 1997 | 304 Pages | 5-5/16 x 8 | ISBN 9780452275355

    Category: Psychology

    Ebook | $12.99
    Published by Plume
    Jul 01, 1997 | 304 Pages | ISBN 9781101128367

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    Praise

    Praise for Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

    “Brilliant.”—Shere Hite, author of The Hite Report

    “A powerful self-help resource for anyone caught in a web of relationship distress… Excellent.”—Christopher L. Hayes, author of Our Turn: Women Who Triumph in the Face of Divorce
     
    “Few have written with such common sense and clarity about how to come out of the trap of ambivalence in marriage. I’ve recommended the book to colleagues and clients.”—Cloé Madanes, co-founder, The Family Therapy Institute

    “A wise, compassionate, and very readable book. It will bless many lives.”—Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People
     
    “Kirshenbaum’s expertise allows her to pinpoint the pertinent questions…. And threaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through.”—Publishers Weekly
     
    “Braving her detailed questions about power, betrayal, communication, respect, intimacy, and love can transform the frustration of being stuck into a decision that feels right.”—Booklist
     
    “Packed with meaty case histories.”—New York Daily News
     
    “No fairy dust here, but a real chance for healing what Kirshenbaum calls ‘the pain and waste of relationship ambivalence.’”—Minneapolis Star Tribune
     
    “Interesting reading and helpful in the way a good therapist can be helpful—by asking the right questions, by clarifying the answers.”—Olga Silverstein, family therapist, author of The Courage to Raise Good Men

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