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“Philosophically rich and deeply sensual.”
—Wall Street Journal
“Febos’s work is not only provocative, it’s absolutely necessary.”
—Los Angeles Times
“The Dry Season is a propulsive, thoughtful memoir about the author’s yearlong hiatus from dating, romance, and sex. . . . In a culture obsessed with love and sex, where being single is pathologized and looked down upon, this story of solo self-discovery is revolutionary.”
—Oprah Daily
“Presenting a model for celibacy that is self-guided rather than socially imposed and compassionate rather than punitive; this book should be required reading for anyone who’s ever been told to ‘just take a break from relationships.’”
—Vogue
“Profound”
—San Francisco Chronicle
“The honesty and humor with which Febos writes her story resonates with anyone who has been through a difficult breakup or struggled to understand why the narratives they spin about their relationships don’t always ring true. Analytical, resourceful, and clarifying, The Dry Season is a direct meditation on the complicated connections between love, self-worth, and fulfillment.”
—Los Angeles Review of Books
“The memoir is highly erotic. . . . Febos deftly balances three competing threads: an inventory of past partners, the arc of her personal celibacy journey, and the role celibacy has played throughout history. . . . Her reflections are delivered with characteristic honesty and meticulous self-examination. Few writers are so skilled. . . . This book — which focuses on the difficult work of unstitching yourself from the behaviors that previously defined you — isn’t about sex; it’s a study of how sex can, like anything pleasurable, shape a person’s whole identity.”
—Vulture “The Best Books of 2025”
“Gorgeous, profound, and profoundly satisfying. . . . [A] delicious memoir of sensulaity and desire. . . . Juicy and thoughtful and lovely. . . . This is Febos at her best.”
—LitHub
“Written with candor, brio and compassion for herself and others. . . . In her crystalline memoir The Dry Season, Melissa Febos gives up sex and finds her sublime purpose, and it’s her most triumphant work to date.”
—BookPage [starred]
“Melissa Febos is a writer of singular wisdom and compassion, and The Dry Season is an utterly consuming and deeply generous book—an illuminating exploration of solitude and partnership, intimacy and manipulation, the stories we tell ourselves about the choices we make and how we might unlearn those stories to see ourselves more clearly. Reading this book, I felt an ecstatic, nerve-tingling gratitude, like it was written just for me—finding such crisp, incisive language for emotional knots I’ve felt caught inside for years—but part of the joy of this feeling was knowing how many people will feel the same way: that this book was written just for them.”
—Leslie Jamison, author of Splinters
“The Dry Season is brilliant and powerful meditation upon addiction, desire, seduction, and the undervalued (and all-too-unexplored) power of a woman laying claim to a period of celibacy for spiritual and personal reasons. Febos is both unflinching and compassionate as she inventories all that she has done for love, and what she will never do again. A deeply important book, and I saw myself and many women whom I love and admire on every page.”
—Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love
“With intensity and precision, Febos writes through a year without sex—and emerges with revelations about intimacy, addiction, power, and self-respect. The Dry Season is not a memoir of lack, but of radical clarity.”
—Esther Perel
“Melissa Febos is straight-up one of the most essential memoirists today, each of her books a deeply profound exploration of the mind and the body and the complex relationship between them. . . . It’s a testament to Febos’s incredible skill that a book centered on celibacy features some of the most erotic writing she’s ever put to paper. . . . Of course, The Dry Season is not just about celibacy; it’s a treatise on listening to and trusting our corporeal instincts, on finding authentic forms of pleasure independent from hegemonic scripts. It’s a book that is itself a pleasure.”
—Electric Lit
“Melissa Febos’s The Dry Season will be called a book about abstinence, about celibacy, but it’s so much more than that. This is a book about obsession, compulsion, about self and self-lessness, about sex and love and art and faith and the capacity of each to swallow us whole, to obliterate us, make us anew alit with our history instead of engulfed by it. Febos talks back to time as she unravels it, inviting everyone into the conversation from Hadewijch to Hildegard, Foucault to Lorde, St. Augustine to Annie Dillard. The Dry Season is about reenchanting oneself with the world. It’s the best book yet by one of contemporary non-fiction’s lodestars.”
— Kaveh Akbar, author of Martyr!
“Only Melissa Febos could write a memoir of her sexual abstinence and make it like a game of Clue. How to catch a thief when the thief is yourself? And the thief of yourself, too? A profound, distilled, untying of a complex knot—Febos riddles out the ways we might subjugate ourselves even with the ways we imagine we are liberated.”
—Alexander Chee, author of How to Write an Autobiographical Novel
“Reading The Dry Season is like having a nourishing conversation with a smart, wry, and ever-probing friend—a conversation so full of wisdom and pleasure that you don’t want it to end. But the book is more than that. Under its nominal topic and entertaining inventory lies a commitment to the lifelong project of “how to get free”—which, as Febos makes clear, is distinct from the more familiar one of “whose fault it was.” The example of Febos’s commitment throughout these pages is inspiring and rare; we’re lucky and better off for it.”
—Maggie Nelson, author of The Argonauts
“Deftly illuminates how and why one’s sense of self is subject to change, mutilate, or surrender when in relation to another and asks what happens when that stops. The result is profound—Febos embraces the ability to be alone and in love with oneself. The Dry Season is essential reading.”
—A.M. Homes, author of The Unfolding
“Only Melissa Febos could convince us of the ecstasy of abstinence. She never fails in her candor and precision.”
—Katherine May, author of Wintering
“As I read, Febos’s celibacy challenge went from feeling like a humblebrag to a deeply relatable effort. And as she settled into her solitude, her observations began to resonate. She details parts of singlehood that I, too, have treasured—and which I’ve heard extolled again and again in my reporting on romance, even from people whose celibate season resulted from a dearth, not an excess, of options.”
—The Atlantic
“Writing within the mystic tradition, Febos’s The Dry Season is a stunning translation of her faith in art and in the self.”
—The Brooklyn Rail
“An emotionally explosive memoir that looks honestly at our desire for pleasure and fulfillment in our lives.”
—Chicago Review of Books
“Melissa Febos draws us into the depths of obsession and desire, delivering an unflinching yet generous reflection on the formative moments that shape our relationships. This is no ordinary excavation; it’s a director’s cut of our darkest impulses, a mirror held up to our psyche. This is a dictionary of vulnerability, a guide to understanding the why behind our desires, not just the what. The Dry Season is a testament to the power of self-awareness, a way forward for those brave enough to look back”
—Samra Habib, author of We Have Always Been Here
“A consummate builder of words and conveyer of ideas, Febos’s keen writing about sex, gender, and addiction is in a class of its own.”
—Booklist
“In The Dry Season, Febos plumbs the restless depths of her own seeking by entwining her compulsive self-discovery with curiosity about a wide range of writers. . . . Earnest. . . . Some might deride attention to personal experience and sexual pleasure while our democracy disintegrates around us, but sex and love are energies that turn us toward each other in an era whose ravages are designed to create lasting isolation.”
—Washington Post
“Thought-provoking. . . . Mixing personal narrative with cultural criticism, the author of Girlhood explores how celibacy radicalized her, giving her permission to put all of her focus on herself, her work, and the platonic relationships that deserved more of her attention.”
—TIME
“Blistering prose, the kind that you might want to get tattooed on your arm. . . . Melissa invigorates her own stories with references from religion and art, literary theory and philosophy, in a way that feels enriching rather than academic, all the while maintaining a clear eye in her depictions of other people and herself.”
—The Maris Review
“An astonishingly rich and affirming analysis, through the subject of celibacy, of what it means to love and be loved – what real intimacy requires, what it urges and what it generates. The Dry Season is the best kind of writing: curious, erudite, funny and deeply humane. I’m so grateful to be living in a world that has Melissa Febos’s writing in it”
—Sophie Gilbert, author of Girl on Girl
“In The Dry Season, Febos interweaves her own narrative with research and reflections on desire that will keep you thinking well beyond the last page.”
—Bustle
“Panoramic yet whisper-close, so funny, exquisitely alive—radiant with ideas new and ancient like stars in a clear night sky”
—Jeremy Atherton Lin, author of Deep House
“[Febos’s] celibacy was not an escape but a deep inquiry into desire, intimacy, and autonomy—a way to interrogate how socialized narratives of love and devotion had shaped her identity as a queer woman. . . . Ultimately, the memoir asks readers to consider what our lives might look like if we stopped orienting them around the desire to be desired.”
—Harper’s Bazaar
“The Dry Season is a masterclass.”
—Women’s Media Center
“A seamless feminist how-to rooted in the ancient histories of women who’ve found their way before us. Febos’s writing and research, paired with her bare, zero-percent-flowery confessions make her the high-brow/low-brow, cool genius nerd hero we love. I needed this book without knowing it. . . . Febos’s books reliably bring me to my knees at least once, if not for the whole stretch. . . . Read The Dry Season knowing you’ll lock eyes with it and it’ll work its way into your heart likety-split. . . . Compelling. . . . She’s calling us all in to the joy she’s found, and The Dry Season is a map to get there.”
—The Stranger
“This story is about understanding, reclaiming, and celebrating pleasure, rendered sublimely and with wit. A gorgeous and thought-provoking memoir about how celibacy can teach us about love.”
—Kirkus Reviews [starred]
“Bold . . . As fascinating as it is liberating, this is not to be missed.”
—Publishers Weekly [starred]
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