Drained

“Drained is a research-backed, powerful guide to managing the complex emotional burden of mental load, with practical advice that is both urgent and transformative. It is a must-read for all women to help them reset how they spend their energy and lead more balanced, fulfilling, joyful lives.”
—Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space

“Leah Ruppanner shines a bright spotlight on one of the most invisible and consequential experiences that can drive division and tax bandwidth to the breaking point: the mental load borne primarily by women that keeps family life running. Drained offers an essential blueprint for happier, healthier relationships and lives.”
—Brigid Schulte, New York Times bestselling author of Overwhelmed and Over Work

“This book is a revelation. Women often talk about our ‘mental load,’ but we don’t really understand what it is, which means we don’t know what to do about it. Drained meticulously and rigorously shows us all the different parts of that load, why we are expected to carry more of it, and how to decide what parts are actually worth carrying. Buy it, read it, and recommend it!”
—Anne-Marie Slaughter, author of Unfinished Business

“With the precision of a sociologist and the empathy of someone who has lived it, Ruppanner maps the hidden architecture of modern womanhood and offers a path to agency, and a life oriented around meaning instead of obligation.”
—Pooja Lakshmin, MD, psychiatrist and bestselling author of Real Self-Care

“It takes a lot to write something new about the mental load that surprises me—but Drained did exactly that. This book is a must-read for all parents! If we want to tackle the care gap and the pay gap, burnout, parents’ mental health, and women’s leadership, we need to understand the mental load. Our first step is to read Drained.”
—Kate Mangino, PhD, author of Equal Partners

“I wish I had this wisdom twenty years ago, before I became a mom. If you are a parent, this book is essential reading. And if you are a mother, it is indispensable. Leah Ruppanner offers a strikingly honest, deeply validating look at the unseen burdens so many of us carry and a path toward living with more ease, agency, and joy.”
—Susan MacKenty Brady, CEO, Simmons University Institute for Inclusive Leadership, and Deloitte Ellen Gabriel Chair for Women and Leadership