In this brave, inspiring memoir she recounts the losses, and what it took to rebuild.
—People
Her stunning account of his recovery efforts and her willful refusal to give up on marriage to the stranger occupying her husband’s body is fantastically heartfelt and inspiring.—Booklist, STARRED review
Wondering Who You Are a quietly wrenching memoir that’s as much about what makes any of us who we are as it is about Lea’s own story.
—Minneapolis Star Tribune
With poetic prose and remarkable candor, lea shares the details of helping her husband regain a sense of purpose…and her own difficult transition.—Seattle Magazine
This meditation on love and loss left me filled with wonder. Sonya Lea considers every possibility—the full span of understanding, from science to shamans to sex—in an effort to rediscover her husband and, in the process, what makes us uniquely human: our memories of who we are. Words like ‘honest’ and ‘intimate’ don’t even begin to describe this remarkable journey.
—Brian Castner, author of The Long Walk: A Story of War
An engrossing journey of self-discovery and fierce devotion.—Kirkus
An intense and accomplished memoir . . . This sweet, erotic, wrenching story asks quintessential questions about memory, the constructed self, and love—its challenges and deep compensations.
—Priscilla Long, author of The Writer’s Portable Mentor: A Guide to Art, Craft, and the Writing Life
An incredibly intimate and honest memoir, Wondering Who You Are shows more vividly than any work of nonfiction I’ve read in years the endlessly complex and delicate nature of identity. In particular, the book movingly reveals how mutable all relationships are, how metamorphosis on one side of a partnership necessitates metamorphosis on the other—we are all constantly changing.
—Peter Mountford, author of The Dismal Science
Sonya Lea tells her extraordinary story extraordinarily well. She has a rare ability to bring readers to the places where love and sex intermingle, collide, or go their separate ways. Wondering Who Your Are is an amazing accomplishment. Every page sparkles with wisdom, candor, insight, and love.
—Chris Ryan – Author of Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
“[A] heartbreakingly honest memoir . . . will touch listeners with its compassion and
grace.” —Booklist,
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Sonya Lea’s Wondering Who You Are is an extraordinary story. A wrenching, deeply honest exploration of love and identity that made me question my ideas about memory, about gender, about marriage and family and faith. About the whole human rigmarole. Her story does what the best stories do: it made me think about life in an entirely new way.
—Suzanne Morrison, author of Yoga Bitch, One Woman’s Quest to Conquer Skepticism, Cynicism, and Cigarettes on the Path to Enlightenment
A beautiful writer…—Dr. Oz