“[Lorraine’s] words and her methodology will be a balm to many mourners, I am certain.”
—HOPE EDELMAN, author of Motherless Daughters, Motherless Mothers, and The AfterGrief
“I recommend this book for all bereaved persons who have felt compelled to silence their loved one’s stories, and every grief counselor seeking to help them speak those stories into fuller presence in their lives with others.”
—ROBERT A. NEIMEYER, PhD, author of Living Beyond Loss and coauthor of Working with Continuing Bonds in Grief
“A deeply compassionate invitation to reimagine mourning.”
—DAVID NYLUND, PhD, professor of social work at California State University, Sacramento and clinical training director at Gender Health Center
“A beautiful and relationship-affirming book that transforms how we think of death and loss.”
—SHEILA MCNAMEE, PhD, professor emerita at the University of New Hampshire and cofounder of The Taos Institute
“A delightful, informative, and very useful book on dealing with the relationships we have after the death of people we have been close to.”
—DR. SUSANNA CHAMBERLAIN, lecturer emerita at the School of Humanities and Social Sciences at Griffith University and private practitioner of counseling
“Lorraine guides us to find light rather than only shadow in our losses, providing us with solace, purpose and even joy as we keep our loved ones not only in our hearts, but in our lives.”
—RABBI PATRICIA KARLIN-NEUMANN, senior associate dean for religious and spiritual life emerita at Stanford University
“A compassionate guide for anyone seeking solace and belonging in the wake of loss.”
—CHRIS HOFF, PhD, LMFT, host of The Radical Therapist podcast and executive director of The California Family Institute
“Deeply humane, richly insightful, and radically compassionate, Lorraine’s work will transform how we understand love, loss, and the enduring presence of those we carry forward.”
—EMILY M. DOYLE, PhD, registered psychologist and master of counselling program director at Athabasca University
“The essential resource for clients and therapists who wish to treat the dead as our ‘best consultants,’ replace grief with transformative practices of belonging, and ensure love continues to guide and sustain the bereaved long after a physical life has ended.”
—STEPHEN MADIGAN, MSW, MSc, PhD, director of training at the Vancouver School of Narrative Therapy
“A treasure trove of knowledge…. What a gift this book is for facing a human experience we all confront over the course of a lifetime.”
—JILL FREEDMAN, MSW, codirector of the Evanston Family Therapy Center and coauthor of Narrative Therapy
“This grief guidebook offers comfort, revelations, and new ways of relating to our losses and to ourselves.”
—SANDRA SHATTUCK, PhD, author of The Electric Life of Lilah Browne
“This is the grief book many of us have been waiting for.”
—DAVID BANNON, author of A Hope Observed and Wounded in Spirit
“The book’s themes of holding on rather than letting go and keeping loved ones close all remind me of my own experience of loss and grief while learning to embrace the past with loved ones dear to me. I realized these experiences helped to build the present and the future of who I am.”
—ANGELA TSUN, MSW, PhD, honorary associate professor at the University of Hong Kong