You're Not in Trouble

“If you have ADHD or care about someone who does, Kristen Carder is the coach you’ve been looking for. She’s written a compassionate, practical guide for navigating ADHD in all kinds of relationships—from family to friendship to work.” —Adam Grant, #1 New York Times–bestselling author of Vibe and Think Again, and host of the podcast Re:Thinking

“Kristen Carder is one of the most trusted voices in the ADHD world, and You’re Not In Trouble is a gem. Warm, practical, and deeply hopeful, this book belongs in the hands of every adult with ADHD and the people who love them.” —Dr. Edward Hallowell, New York Times–bestselling author of Driven to Distraction

“This book is a masterpiece of practical relationship wisdom. I hope it extends its audience beyond the ADHD community, because every human being could use its fresh insights. Written in a humorous, personal, and direct way, you won’t be wading through words to get to the good parts. This is a graceful and entertaining read that propels you along from one new truth to another. You’ll never feel disempowered or confused in your relationships again after reading this wonderful book. Highly recommended.” —Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, clinical psychologist, and New York Times–bestselling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

“Carder speaks directly to the generation of adults only now discovering their ADHD and how it has impacted their relationships. With striking honesty about growing up neurodivergent in a world built by and for neurotypicals, she names the grief that surfaces when you finally start telling yourself the truth about what you needed as a kid and didn’t get. This is essential reading for any adult with ADHD working to understand themselves and heal their closest relationships.” —Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity

“Kristen Carder names something many adults with ADHD quietly carry: the sense that they are always one misstep away from disappointing someone. You’re Not in Trouble gives readers language for that experience and invites them toward more honest, connected relationships.” —Tamara Rosier, PhD, author of Your Brain’s Not Broken

“If relationships (of all kinds) feel more fraught than they should be, then You’re Not in Trouble is the book for you. Kristen goes beyond the obvious advice into the deeper, messier, and more vulnerable aspects of life with ADHD. Like a great friend, she brings her usual sensitivity, wit, and empathy to difficult topics and scary conversations so you don’t need to go through them alone.” —Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA, and author of The ADHD Productivity Manual

“Weaving together personal experience, sage frameworks, and user-friendly guidance, Kristen Carder’s book achieves its goal of helping you navigate the different relationships in your life. Readers, especially adults with ADHD, will be able to find, maintain, and savor strong connections and circumvent common difficulties, including sidestepping unhealthy ties. Everything you need is in this book.” —J. Russell Ramsay, PhD, ABPP, psychologist, and author of Once I Get Started and The Adult ADHD Anxiety Workbook