“Like most Black girls of my generation, I saw the movie before I read the book. In vivid detail, I recall my mother sitting my sister and me down in front of our ancient television mounted in wood, pushing the VCR tape in, and declaring, having just signed her own divorce papers, that it was time we girls knew what it meant to be women. The movie, so well-known that most folk I know can quote it by heart, even its first few minutes imprinted in my ten-year-old mind an indelible image—a Black woman in a nightgown stood smoking a cigarette over the remnants of her failed marriage, declaring it all trash. When I finally read the novel in college, I again was blown away by how visceral the characters were, how incredible their agency was.
Waiting to Exhale by Terry McMillan taught me how to be a woman. That I, too, would overcome my own divorce, that it was just fine, a right thing, to smoke a cigarette and ponder my worth. So much more than a novel,
Waiting to Exhale is a cultural relic that rests squarely in Black Americana. We know every scene. Can sing every song. Perhaps because McMillan’s prose taught me, taught us all, that sisterhood is as necessary as air. And that I can always take a moment to breathe. What a gift. What a gift to the world.” —Tara M. Stringfellow, author of
Memphis
“For me? It’s Terry McMillian. It’s her bravery and ambition and her faith in the stories of Black women. Knowing and necessary, Terry McMillan’s 1992 novel,
Waiting to Exhale,
‘proved’ to a narrow-minded culture industry that not only did Black people read but that Black women read so much and so deeply they launched era-defining trends like McMillan’s storytelling did with the 1995 film version of
Waiting to Exhale.
Exhale made back near its entire budget over opening weekend and served as inspiration for an all-Black woman soundtrack that in 2022 remains one of the most successful of all time. We haven’t even started talking about
Mama (1987), or
How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1996), or how Terry McMillan’s books gave me the courage to keep placing one sentence after another.” —Danyel Smith, author of
Shine Bright