Why Are We Yelling?

Praise

“This is a life-changing book. Read it three times and then give a copy to anyone you care about. It will make things better.”
–Seth Godin, author of This is Marketing

“This clever, empowering book shows how conflict can be a source of growth, intrigue, and joy. Buster Benson unveils a new framework for arguing that helps you understand your biases and show other people theirs in a non-confrontational way. This is the perfect book at the perfect time to bring some sanity back into disagreements.”
–Annie Duke, author of Thinking in Bets

“Buster Benson turns everything you know about arguing on its head. Before reading this book, I never thought I’d be looking forward to my next disagreement. Productive disagreeing is the most underrated life skill you can build.”
–Ev Williams, CEO of Medium, partner at Obvious Ventures, co-founder of Twitter

“What could be more useful in improving human relationships than learning how to disagree productively?  In this lively, accessible, and practical guide, Buster Benson offers us eight valuable principles for turning rude arguments or suppressed differences into dynamic conversations that illuminate, connect, and yield better results for all. With Benson’s help, let the arguing begin!” 
–William Ury, co-author of Getting to Yes and author of Getting to Yes with Yourself

“Conflict can be ugly. But if you follow the precepts of Buster Benson, you’ll discover that it’s also inevitable, necessary, and even helpful. Why Are We Yelling? provides a taxonomy of disagreement — explaining how arguments arise, how to handle them, and how to resolve them. Nobody can completely avoid conflict, but everybody can learn how to argue better and more productively with this provocative book.” 
–Daniel H. Pink, author of When and To Sell Is Human

“I’m a sucker for frameworks, and this is one of the greats. You’ll learn to turn the messy, frustrating, emotional experience of arguing into a fine art. You’ll watch the quality of your collaborations—and your ideas—go through the roof.”
–Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and Insdistractable
 
“In today’s polarized climate, ‘productive disagreement’ often feels like an oxymoron. Benson brilliantly challenges this idea, offering a thoughtful guidebook on how to lower our voices, tolerate tension, and have the constructive dialogue our world needs.” 
–General Stanley McChrystal, author of Leaders and Team of Teams

“Sometimes it feels like the only way to have a constructive argument is to clone yourself or master the art of mind control.  But it turns out all you need is Buster Benson.  His methods are instantly actionable, his writing is funny and relatable, and his book is the ideal companion to Difficult Conversations.”
–Adam Grant, author of Originals and Give and Take, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife

“Reading Why Are We Yelling? is like having your most calm, level-headed friend explain how you might diffuse a tense situation in your life and work. I especially recommend this book to anyone who has ever tried to ‘win’ an argument only to end up frustrated with the results.”
—Jason Shellen, co-founder of Google Reader, Boxer, and Brizzly; co-founder of Fable

“With provocative ideas—and the brain science to back them up—Why Are We Yelling? offers fresh approaches to conflict and connection.”
–Sarah Milstein, author of The Twitter Book