Raising Raffi

Praise for Raising Raffi:

“A wise, mild and enviably lucid book about a chaotic scene. . . . Gessen is a calm and observant writer . . . who raises, and struggles with, the right questions about himself and the world.”
—Dwight Garner, The New York Times

“A father’s careful, piercing introspection, and a deep analysis of anger. . . . Gessen writes about his temperamental, trying son with a depth that can only come from years of loving observation. . . . Memoirs of fatherhood are rarely so honest or so blunt.”
—Daniel Engber, The Atlantic
 
“Raising Raffi is good. . . . Parents with toddlers prone to Raffi’s . . . particular brand of ‘uncivil disobedience’ might, like me, find themselves scribbling I FEEL SEEN on every other page. . . . Snappy, smart, relatable. . . . One of the most honest accounts of the rage a parent can feel when personally victimized by their small children, even as they love those children with stupefying tenderness.”
—Meghan Flaherty, Slate

“Raising Raffi is tender and generous.” 
—New York magazine

“[Gessen] describes the surprising, joyful and often enervating experience of raising Raphael, his son with novelist Emily Gould. . . . Gessen can be funny and self-deprecating.”
—Mark Athitakis, The Los Angeles Times

“An incisive examination of parenthood—and childhood—written by one of the literary world’s finest.”
—Zibby Owens, Katie Couric Media

“Gessen’s writing about Raffi is sweet and exasperated and often quite funny.” 
—Piper French, The Drift

“A promising addition to the dad-book canon.”
—Oliver Munday, The Atlantic

“Raising Raffi is Gessen’s own reckoning with the intellectual and emotional tumult of new fatherhood. . . . [The book] offers a sharp sense of wonder about the quotidian details of fatherhood.”
—Phillip Maciak, The New Republic

“This book is thoughtful, companionable, funny and memorable. Readers will return to it again and again—and will hope, like I do, that Gessen publishes a follow-up about Raffi’s next five years.”
—BookPage (starred review)

“Gessen renders the daunting frontier of new parenthood with tenderness and humility in these eloquent essays about rearing his first child. . . . New parents will find no shortage of laughs, cries, and solace here.”
—Publishers Weekly

“The book is engaging and better-written than many parenting books on the market. In addition, it is a fascinating look at the triumphs and struggles faced by a first-generation Russian immigrant.”
—Library Journal

“The early years of fatherhood recounted with humility. . . . From being a ‘three-year-old terrorist,’ Raffi evolved into a ‘willful, sometimes violent’ 4-year-old; a stubborn 5-year-old; and an ‘adorable, infuriating, mercurial’ 6-year-old. . . . A warm, candid parenting memoir.”
—Kirkus Reviews

“Novelist and critic Keith Gessen would be the first to admit he didn’t set out to write a book of parenting advice, but young parents reading the nine frank but warmhearted essays that compose Raising Raffi will be happy he did, not least for the collection’s reassuring message: you are not alone. . . . Anyone who’s experienced the joys and challenges of parenting will find themselves savoring Keith Gessen’s piquant observations on fatherhood. And if they pick up a useful tip or two from his hard-earned experience, that wouldn’t be surprising either.”
—Harvey Freedenberg, Shelf Awareness

“[Gessen] explores how kids make us grow in new ways but also how they excavate our own baggage and dump it all over a too-small living room floor. It’s entertaining and true; it’s also nice to read a book from a dad’s point of view, especially one who aspires to thoughtfulness and genuine involvement.”
—Jewish Boston

“My brother wrote a book about my nephew, and this book made me laugh and tear up. It’s a book about love: the love of a father for his child, of course, and also the love of an adult son for his parents (our parents), the love an emigre feels for the language (Russian) and culture (Soviet Jewish emigre) of his home. It’s a book about the way love makes us feel powerless one minute and strong the next. It’s a beautiful book, and you should read it.”
—Masha Gessen, National Book Award-winning author of The Future Is History
 
“Until recently, fatherhood was, in many places, an arm’s-length affair. In Raising Raffi, Keith Gessen puts the emerging phenomenon of engaged fatherhood on the literary map, with a raw, wry, introspective chronicle of the first five years of dad life. It is a story of Macy’s engagement rings, missing heartbeats, vaginal geysers, playground violence, Russian children’s literature, racially segregated schools, and more. It raises profound questions about what it means to raise a boy when the old ways of being a man have been discredited and the new ones have yet to saturate. If you are a father, want to be a father, have a father, or are thinking of leaving the father of your children, then this book is for you.”
—Anand Giridharadas, New York Times bestselling author of Winners Take All

“In this beautiful book, a father’s love and anxiety test themselves against the sometimes-dubious popular philosophies of parenting, the memories of Gessen’s own upbringing and the harsh interruption of real world events. Parents who have doubted themselves and tried to untangle the mystery of young humans—in other words, all parents—will recognize themselves in this vulnerable and finely wrought memoir.”
—Megan K. Stack, author of Women’s Work
 
“Keith Gessen is one my favorite writers, and Raising Raffi brings to bear everything I love about him: his fierce intellect and fiercer compassion, his deep reflection and pitch-perfect humor. This fatherhood shit ain’t easy, but Gessen might just help us make it through.”
—Adam Mansbach, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Go the F*ck to Sleep
 
“I didn’t know I was waiting for a book like this until I read it. Raising Raffi is original, funny, and full of heart.”
—Daniel Alarcón, founder of Radio Ambulante and author of At Night We Walk in Circles
 
“I would read Keith Gessen writing about anything but having his curiosity trained on the thorny, existential subject of parenthood is pure heaven. I read this book about the neurosis (and the joy!) of the 21st-century parent in a fugue state, grateful to Gessen for his humor and insight.” 
—Meaghan O’Connell, author of And Now We Have Everything